That sounded like a sponsorship introduction like how celebrities thank their sponsors for the products they endorse. But no, that's not what I meant.
Different as people are, I know that every way of life should be respected. I have actually encountered some parenting strategies that seem to be honing children wrongly and much as I'd like to butt in, I'm not in the position to do so, so I keep mum. But yeah, I have proven that parenting is a skill and unfortunately, not all parents have that skill. So, I just wanna share what my parents and elders have thought me, nagging-ly reminded me, almost tirelessly mentioned every time...all through these years.
Hindi kailangan lahat maranasan mo, para malaman mo ang mali sa tama. Kaya kami (parents) nandito para sabihin yun sa'yo. Kaya importanteng nakikinig ka samin. At kaya rin we can all learn from other people's mistake. That's what my mom said and it's beautiful! Up until today,, I adhere to her words because not only are these true but they haunt me! Kiddin', ma. :) She also said that learning from others saves you a great deal of hurt, embarrassment and/or failure. And that is absolutely true! Some might argue that knowing is not the same as feeling or some might say that it's better to experience something first-hand. But I say in reply, "Dude, why make it hard on yourself when there's someone who so selflessly looks out for you and says that smoking is bad for your health, will give you bad skin and will suck your money down the drain."
Lesson learned: Obedience. Not easy to do as it takes lots of submissiveness, trust and honor. A big applaud to anyone who has been obedient to their folks.
Finish your studies. That is from my parents who both swear by the value of education. My mom is in HR so she's into hiring people and she's seen 1st hand how cruel the world is to those who haven't finished their studies or those who did finish but whose grades are mockingly embarrassing to show to anyone. Both my parents believed in the power of good education. And in this age when a bachelor's degree is just enough to get you a meager job, I now fully understand how vital education is not just to keep you up and ahead but to give you a lifetime of self-worth.
Lesson learned: Finish school with good grades.
I-enjoy mo yung pagka-dalaga mo. Mag-travel ka, bilhin mo yung gusto mo habang bata ka - as said by Ninang Joy. And I know she did enjoy it during her days. She traveled to a lot of local places, had lots of stuff, ate out with friends every Friday night and boy, was I jealous looking at her with me big eyes and 6-year old curiosity. Now that I am earning and on my own, I know what she meant.
Lesson learned: LIVE!!!
Pay yourself. Ninang Glen always said, you've worked for it, you deserve to be paid. Put a little amount for yourself. Save for it. And give something back to God. Apart from that, she taught me so much more by her ways about generosity, selflessness and going for your dreams. She is truly an example.
Lesson learned: Reward yourself
By example, papa showed me the importance and great, great rewards of following ones parents and honoring thy father and thy mother.
Lesson learned: 4th commandment
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Parent: He was off with his friends. I let him go off with that thing. I knew better. I knew better....I should have stopped him.
Dr. Bailey: Kids spin out of control sometimes. They spin out of control. You can't stop them.
Parent: Yes, you can. You can control them. That's your job as a parent to control them.
- Grey's anatomy season 3 episode 2
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